The realities of sober dating
They are often very compassionate and non-judgmental in their relations with others, will not shy away from confronting difficult problems head on, and will usually be right there to help those they love through their own darkest hours. I threw him out numerous times and each time he would beg to come back and promised to go to rehab.
I absolutely agree with you, alcoholism is just a symptom. Also, as someone else touched on, he lied all of the time. That’s rare i realize hence the pride. Btw, if you’re nearing 40, you should strongly consider the fact that you probably won’t have kids [or any more kids]. How you explain doing stupid s**t when you were wasted! I think of him as someone who’s been through a lot and taken control of his life, which i respect.
Dating in a world of temptation
I had my last semi-normal relationship in 2008 before my addiction took a turn and alcohol became the most important relationship in my life. Stop for an unexpected sweet treat, or walk as far as you can in one direction and then take a taxi or bus back. One of my close friends is in aa and he’s great.
I would act sloppier and more liberated, and he was completely sober and having sex with me while i was not in the right state of mind. Problem is that i like to drink myself. I’d been through a lot in the year prior, and had convinced myself that no one but another alcoholic would believe or understand my struggle and accept me.
Will my insurance pay for rehab?
You should see a therapist. Sometimes if your alarm bells are ringing, there is good reason. Call for a free benefits check.
And had i realised that sooner, i might never have gotten ‘dirty’ in the first place. I am very sad, but finally realized that i did nothing wrong. A substance abuse problem changes the way a person looks at the world, and treatment does much the same thing. I’m just there to hang out.
Do not discount your own needs
[quote]seems obvious that he decided you weren’t for him after you spent a whole week vacation together. The issue is, i tell you (the cute girl) i am in recovery (coming out as recovering is inevitable), “what?” she says, yeah “i don’t drink”, “why not?” inquisitively she asks, i respond “i am a recovering alcoholic” — her eyes glare over with ‘ewwwww’ a glare that remains the cloud shaped like a cloud- subjective interpretation will always be defeated by socially accepted fact – recovery or not, alcoholism is bad.
My husband soon to be ex; is skilled at rehab, therapy and manipulating people in general. The other dark side remained , stealing , hidden anger , abuse and controlling behavior , i can now see that being with him was making me feel so stressed , his life will always be about drugs , recovery is number one , not family or love. First tried to get sober at age 25, she thought swearing off dating for a year was unfair. I go out, i drink, i get drunk, and i have sex with my partner. The love of her life had different plans.
Do know your limits
In retrospect, it was an awful location, since eating burritos is delicious but messy and not at all endearing. R25 is a truly pathetic frau. I have read many sites that have lists of personality traits that alcoholics share, and he possesses many of them.